Approaching a milestone birthday

So, you all know by now that I’m close to my 40th birthday… yeah I know… by the time it actually gets here you’ll be sick of me saying it ;)

After my annual trip to the gynae yesterday and a discussion this morning about my bucket list project and big birthdays on Twitter with @samanthaperry @MamaZombieZA @NocturnalWenchy@kambabe and @ShazPhoto I started thinking about how I’m approaching this birthday.

40 doesn’t frighten me.  At all.

In fact, 30 didn’t either.  At the time the only thing I hadn’t achieved that I’d wanted to by then, was having my first child.  I was more concerned about the trip we took to London at the time :) LOL!

It’s not that I’m not aware of my age.  I know I’m not getting younger.  The only thing that frightens me is not having money to retire.  And the fact that there are very very few aging female photographer who are actually making money… LOL! One of the reasons I can’t stop working full-time.

It’s all about control and independence to me… always has been.  LOL!

I think milestone birthdays make you think about what you’ve actually achieved since the last one.  Or at least, they make me think about it.  And I also think that that’s where some of the angst comes from.  But if you sit and actually think about it, and not just about negatives which are always easier to think about… you do realise how much you’ve done.  I’m not going to actually blog about that today though, because I still have almost 2 months to achieve more ;)

40 is not the same as other birthdays though, because the milestone is not only in your head.  The medical fraternity has decided that when you turn 40 you need tests… and that became more real to me when I visited the gynae yesterday.

Now I have to book for mammograms.  Really not looking forward to that, but I’d rather know than not know.  She also scared me a little with thoughts of turning 46!! My oath! 40 I can handle, but 46 is a BIG number.  LOL! That came up because we were discussing contraceptives and what to do before I won’t need them again.  That’s quite a thought that!!

And then, I also know that I need to have my eyes tested from this year.  There’s glaucoma in the family, and I need tests from now on to make sure I don’t get it.

I’m determined that my 40′s will be amazing and incredible… I’m going to ensure that they are.

But actually, after all that… my birthday will just be that… another birthday and in fact… just another day.  This milestone business is really all in our heads and not really real.

What do milestone birthdays mean to you?  Are you looking forward to, or dreading your next one?

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12 Responses to Approaching a milestone birthday

  1. kambabe May 4, 2012 at 10:44 am #

    Hey honey my 40th is next month and I can so relate to this post!!!

  2. Steve Crane May 4, 2012 at 10:57 am #

    Only 40? Still a youngster. :-) I turn 50 this month. EISH!!!

  3. Gina May 4, 2012 at 10:58 am #

    Turning 30 was a non issue for me. But birthdays are a non issue anyway. Its just another day. Im not sure how I will feel about it when I reach 40 but Im betting on it being just another day for me too

  4. cat@jugglingact May 4, 2012 at 11:49 am #

    Oh I loved turning 40 !To me it signed in the “I know who I am and bugger the rest” decade. It was a huge leap in self confidence.
    And make sure she sends you to one of the newer mammogram palces that use the electronic equipment. It really was not half as bad as I expected.

  5. Fiona May 4, 2012 at 12:51 pm #

    I celebrated my 21st and 30th by throwing huge parties. It’s a celebration of what was and is to come. I actually just need a reason to party to be honest.

    Saying that I do get a little depressed each year I’m getting older, greyer and more wrinkly. I do wish I appreciated my youth more.

  6. NickiD May 4, 2012 at 1:50 pm #

    I honestly can’t wait to turn 30!

  7. JaneF May 4, 2012 at 2:07 pm #

    I have no doubt that you will rock your 40s big time. You have flourished in your 30s and seem to be on the up and up. You really are coming into full bloom now. I can see it! :)

  8. Avril (Mom) May 4, 2012 at 4:08 pm #

    The 40′s are great!! Kiddies are older for one thing. Also time to get in touch with your body .. exercise/yoga/pilates!! A healthy body stands in good stead for the 50′s, 60′s and beyond :)

    You’ve got 10 years of your 40′s .. enjoy them all !! xxx

  9. Cheryl May 4, 2012 at 6:21 pm #

    Becoming aware that your body is not a machine that will just keep on going is a huge adjustment as you reach and pass these milestones. I am enjoying being on this side of 40 where I still can tackle things with youthful enthusiasm but with the wisdom that years have brought.

  10. Michelle May 5, 2012 at 12:02 am #

    Just had 50th and nothing is different other than maybe a few more wrinkles and grey hairs, but hey I have earned those. Go with the flow and enjoy the ride!

  11. Marcia (123 blog) May 5, 2012 at 9:14 pm #

    My 23rd birthday was full of angst but nothing since then. I had always associated 23 with finally being grown-up (don’t know where that number came from).

    But I must confess I get very contemplative around each birthday – what have I done, what am I showing for my life, am I leaving a big enough legacy, that type of existential stuff :)

  12. Angel May 13, 2012 at 10:37 pm #

    My milestone birthdays don’t freak me out at all, they never have. I think its because I had my knucklehead before I was legally allowed to drink and I measured my milestones with his birthdays after that. :D
    Although the thought of turning 39 in December does freak me out more than a little…