I’m not coping.
Maybe I should have listened to the head guru at work, and contacted EAP for some psychological help. Maybe…
… and what you may ask am I not coping with… work, work, work, giving the kids attention, Connor not being stimulated enough, Lance’s endless dreaming, time, shopping, work, projects, kids sick again, no food in the house, dirty house, chaotic paperwork at home, THE thing that’s lurking that I haven’t done anything about, time spent in traffic, kids too big for their clothes, organising our holiday next week… etc…
… and what I am coping with… nothing
… and what I’m doing about it… blogging and hiding from it… and feeling sorry for myself. And letting Bradley catch me with my guard down yesterday and him thinking that it was him that made me cry… and then then hearing that he’s had a bad day at school today and he just cried… and it’s all my fault. Like everything else is too.
***I might delete this actually***
you don’t have to cope with *everything*
i’m going to give you advice that i don’t follow myself lol. DELEGATE and LET THINGS GO
no one is sitting at the end of the day with a red pen marking you on what you have and haven’t done or how well you did or didn’t do it – except maybe yourself. then give yourself a smack and have a shot of tequila
We all feel like this from time to time J. And some things you just can’t delegate. Also, I often find that when I feel like this, it’s at a time when I haven’t devoted any time to taking extremely good care of myself. So self is down (boo!) … and then all this other stuff is piled on top. I find the only way out is to 1) prioritize things that are overwhelming me – make a list 2) take a mental health day off work and spend half the day tackling top things on your list and half the day doing something special (and restful) for yourself 3) Promising not to take on ANYTHING new ’til list is finished. 4) Ignore the rest 😉
Hugs, by the way!
Don’t delete this. Heck if it’s one things blogs are good for, it’s for blowing off steam. And you need to blow off some steam.
I know you – and I know how you push yourself and demand perfection from yourself and those around you. Maybe you need to look at what you think perfection brings you? Some kind of illusion of control? It’s all an illusion anyway you know. And not one iota of it matters at the end of the day.
You probably wanna hit me right now 😉 and feel free it throw this back in my face sometime when I’m stressing about stuff…but it’s the truth. Nothing really matters anyway…and it’s all an illusion (is that a song?).
x
I could see you were feeliing overwhelmed on Saturday / not happy about life.
Jeanette you are one of the most organised Mom’s I know and having a 5 year old and a toddler in the house is not easy!!! Heck – I don’t even work and I still have boxes to unpack from our move in January!! Why? I don’t know!!! 🙂
There’s nothing you can do about sick kids….it’s a fact of life in winter. For everything else…make a list (no – not mastercard!!!!) 🙂 And then go and talk to someone professional. Even if it’s only one session.
((((HUGS))))
I like Nobaddays’ idea….take a mental health day. Ask your Mom to take Connor and Beauty for the whole day, send Bradley to school and spend some time alone in the house. Sorting stuff. Please make it some time next week and then we can meet for coffee / tea / wine too 😀
I just re-read this and had to laugh…..most mom’s have problem with clothes being too SMALL not too big 😀
LOL Sarah, I meant their clothes are too small
Nothing I can say that wouldn’t echo the above, so just sending you some (((hugs))).
Don’t delete the post! If not for any other reason that it lets others know they are not alone when feeling exactly like you are.
and I agree with the above – take a mental health day.
Oh hell, I’ve been there, Jenty. I think we have at some point, some more often than others. I don’t know what to say except that I feel your pain, and it’s NOT all your fault. Some things just happen, like sick kids, or kids having a bad day. If you ever need to just vent, you know my email address.
Oi Jeanette! Sorry man! I know it feels like it but its really not all your fault!
You definately need a time out of some sort and maybe seeing someone isnt a bad idea!!!
It’s so tough trying to cope with everything. Some times it does feel like everything is just.too.much. Then someone they just fall into place again. Just breath. Get through the moment
i know this post is a few days old
hope you feel better?
((hugs))
this too shall pass 🙂
((Hugs)) Jeanette
I hope this week that Lance is away isn’t too hard on you and I think the holiday is going to do you a world of good.