I’m not in a good space today.
Bradley’s been acting up a bit at home and school recently, he’s not concentrating and the teacher says he’s being disruptive in class. Yes, the same child that’s normally a star and got merits etc etc. Oh and he was bullied by a girl the other day in class, she called him names, so he hit her on the shoulder 🙁 so he got into trouble for that too!
Anyhoo, Lance asked Bradley last night whether something was bothering him. It took him a while, but eventually he spoke to Lance before he went to sleep, and said that he misses playing with us.
We don’t play with him anymore.
I suppose he’s right. I’m forever working. I’m either at work, or editing or at photoshoots. Lance is always pottering around on his laptop.We’re not really spending time just playing with them. Lance plays cricket with them in the afternoons, but that’s instructions again, and organised play, it’s not play!
It’s not fair.
Something is going to have to change.
And this blog is getting boring, and seems to me like I’m always moaning lately 🙁
Give him 20 minutes a day one-on-one time with you and play a game like snap, snakes and ladders, noughts and crosses… any kind of game.
It doesn’t sound like much, but it will work wonders!!
I hear you. I realise that I am also always half distracted by the laptop or phone or work or house stuff. I think Angel is right – 20 minutes of real focussed time would go down well in my house too.
p.s. Its not boring, I think most of us can relate.
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I can relate. When I’m done with school I need a break from him and am in no mood for playing. I need coffee and adult time and he wants to have fun with mom. Part of being a mom I guess, and 20 minutes isn’t so long when you think about it. I just keep thinking of all the pics I can edit in 20 minutes :/
No, you are not moaning all the time. (Heavens, I think I am). We had a huge drama last year when HUnter was studying – princess just caved in completely.She needed one on one time with both of us and with the twins it was difficult. Hunter stopped his studies- will probably go on this year, but on advice from a friend who is a child psychologist, we made alone time for her. So after the boys are in bed we have reading and chatting time on our own, sometimes we play a bit – either both of us with her or she on her own with one of us. We also now regularly put time aside to do something on a Saturday with her alone. It has worked wonders. Now we need to start this with the boys, but we are of course out numbered!
Love girl – and heads up – it will pass.
Sometimes you’ve gotta take stock. Balance – thats what its all about.
All children want is your time, you attention. Its not important WHAT you do. They will remember the times that you dropped everything to be silly.
Go be silly.
Your blog is not boring! Meriel is right, we can all relate. I’m due for a good grumble soon! Got stuff to tell you – maybe we should go for a coffee sometime!
Good for Bradley for being open and honest with you like that! I’m sure now that you and Lance are aware of it, you’d be able to give him what he needs!
I agree with Angel….you’ll probably find he’ll be happy with even 10 minutes and be chomping at the bit to go and play with Connor!
Firstly, your blog is not boring, otherwise I and many others would not have visited it at all.
Secondly, I think all of us tend not to realize that we do not spend enough time with our kiddies.
(((hugs)))) It’s so not easy to be a working mom, especially if you have TWO jobs.
Knowing you though, I know that somewhere you will be able to make time for him
I must commend you on being such a great working mother! You and Lance are awesome role models for the kidlets.
Set aside a little time each day to spend playing. And maybe think of ‘booking’ time on a weekend to go for a picnic or do something where you’re spending time as a family.
I can only imagine how difficult it must be to balance work and family, but I know you can and will do it!
*hugs*
I understand this.
We have started playing card games like UNO and memory in the afternoon. Even if we only manage one game we do it!
Its hard I know!